This is a quiet place to slow down.
Most people find their way here not because nothing is working but because too much is. They’ve learned how to adapt, how to tread water, how to ‘keep calm and carry on’ . . . except the cost is getting too high to ignore.
I don’t expect you to show up with a complete story, diagnosis or a plan for change – the mess is where the magic lives. This is a place where the parts of you that feel uncertain, sceptical and tired of trying are just as welcome as the parts that feel determined, open-minded and hopeful.
YOU MAY BE NOTICING
Effort without arrival.
At some point, the cost of functioning, being productive or getting through can start to feel exhausting. You might feel hollowed out or in a constant state of low-level tension, moving constantly without ever arriving at an abstract destination and starting to suspect that maybe you missed getting the guidebook everyone else seems to be working with.
It’s common to start wondering whether it’s a matter of missing information or there’s just something fundamentally wrong with you. Spoiler alert: You’re not inherently broken . . . but just saying that on repeat doesn’t do much to squash the insidious, persuasive little whisper that sits in the back of your mind, poking at your tender spots.
This work begins by taking that experience seriously. We don’t rush to silence that voice. We hear it out.
HOW I WORK
Sometimes people arrive having already done therapy.
Not always unsuccessfully. Often, they learned a lot from previous work, and something just feels unexplored or not quite settled. Maybe past sessions were helpful but it began to feel like they were circling the same material or that significant insights made sense but didn’t translate into a real difference in how it feels to do life on a daily basis.
When that happens, it’s common to assume the problem must be personal, that you didn’t try hard enough, weren’t open enough or somehow missed what you were supposed to get out of it.
I don’t find that assumption useful.
Different forms of therapy do different kinds of work. Some focus on skills, some on symptom relief and some on explanation. The work here is existential, experiential and relational. We pay attention to what happens over time – within you, between us and during sessions – and to the meanings that shape how you’ve learned to move through the world (and the ones you want to shape your future).
This kind of therapy is not about digging deeper for the sake of it or pushing for life-altering breakthroughs on day one. It’s about creating enough safety and steadiness for something lost, hidden or new to emerge, without forcing it and without treating you like a problem that needs solving.
WORKING TOGETHER
A grounded, collaborative process.
I currently offer individual and relationship therapy in a completely virtual format. Sessions are conversational and shaped by what feels present or relevant rather than a fixed agenda.
Some sessions respond closely to things that come up in everyday life; others explore big questions about meaning and purpose. Both matter. Practical details, including fees, are discussed openly as part of fit and live on the Working Together page.
CONTACT
If you’re thinking about reaching out. . .
. . . that’s enough to start.
You don’t need a clear explanation of what’s wrong or a sense of where this might lead. Most people don’t. An initial note can be simple.
I’ll respond with some practical information and space to ask questions, so you can decide whether this feels like a good fit, at your own pace.